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Preparing My Heart for Motherhood

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  Looking Beyond the Pink and Blue I’ve always imagined being a great mom as part of my future. Being around my nieces and nephews has given me some early insight into the world of parenting, and lately, I’ve been thinking a lot more seriously about it because of a class I’m taking. We’re studying The 10 Basic Principles of Good Parenting by Laurence Steinberg, and this week we explored how gender plays a role in how parents raise their kids. It really made me step back and ask myself, when the time comes, how will I raise my children to feel seen, understood, and supported? In class, I read a story from a BYU–Idaho professor about her neighbor who had very traditional gender expectations when it came to parenting. The neighbor was kind and well-meaning, but her approach to raising her kids really stood out to me. Her daughter was expected to do most of the housework, follow very strict dating rules, and basically put her future career goals aside in favor of getting married and be...

Teaching My Kids About Intimacy

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  Why It Matters Now More Than Ever As a young woman preparing for the future and to become a mother someday, I’ve thought a lot about what kind of parent I want to be. One topic that’s been on my mind lately is how I’ll teach my kids about healthy sexuality and intimacy. I am not talking just about the biology or the “do’s and don’ts,” but about the why, and the deeper spiritual meaning behind it all. I recently watched a video where two parents and teachers discussed how vital it is for children to learn about intimacy from their parents, not from the internet, media, or their peers. It really struck a chord with me. One of the speakers pointed out that teaching about intimacy is a value-based teaching, just like honesty, kindness, or hard work. Growing up, I saw a lot of mixed messages around sex, especially on social media. Now, thinking about raising kids of my own, I realize that if I don’t speak up and teach them the truth, the world will f...

Learning to Lead with Love

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How Emotion Coaching Can Shape Me into the Mom I Want to Be My biggest dream is to be a wife and a mother one day. I know I still have time before I start a family of my own, I’ve already seen how much impact parenting can have and especially when it comes to emotions. Between babysitting, spending countless hours with 12 nieces and nephews, and taking college parenting classes, I’ve started to understand that parenting isn’t just about rules and routines. It’s about the connection we have with our children. One concept that really stood out to me is emotion coaching . It’s a parenting style introduced by Dr. John Gottman, and it completely changed how I view discipline and relationships with kids. Emotion coaching is basically when a parent helps their child understand what they’re feeling and shows them that it’s okay to feel that way. It’s not about ignoring emotions or shutting them down. Instead, it’s about recognizing feelings, helping name them, and teachi...